My 5th book, Breaking Money Silence®: How to Shatter Money Taboos, Talk More Openly about Finances, and Live a Richer Life has been published and I want to share with you how it all began. You can download the complete Introduction chapter here.
Introduction: Being Quiet Was Never My Strong Suit
From the time I could talk, I had something to say. As a young girl, I discovered that this trait was viewed as unattractive and unladylike. Words such as opinionated, loud, and stubborn were tossed around at my expense. My elementary school report card came home with a note stating, “She talks too much to her neighbors.” Even my father, who was my hero, wanted me to be quieter, and occasionally called me “the mouth.” If I had listened to all these influential adults, this book would never have been written.
You see, I think speaking up, especially if you are a woman, is a good thing. How else will people know what is on your mind? You need to use tact and consider how your words may resonate with your listener. But the act of voicing your opinion and asking questions is vital to your wellbeing, your relationships, and your future — especially when it comes to money. Finance is the one area of life that many adults find difficult to discuss. Society tells us it’s rude to ask how much someone is paid, even if he is your father or brother. You never inquire about the price of the neighbor’s house, as this would be in poor taste. And even if you want to know what your friend paid for her new sports car, you bite your tongue so as to not offend. Even intimate partners, who share everything, hide purchases from each other for fear their loved one might disapprove of how they spent their money.
For someone who was born highly verbal, I too struggled to openly discuss money for many years.
Download Introduction here.